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Wednesday, June 19, 2024 at 02:44PM 
My great-nephews Jonathan and JP
Time to tell you about the first of our three parties from last week and weekend.
The first involved my niece, Rebecca, and her family.
Rebecca is the third child (and third daughter) of my sister, Kay, and her husband, Pierre-Philippe, who have seven children and I have lost track of how many grandchildren.
As for Rebecca, when TG and I were married forty-five years ago, she was in utero.
My sister was of course the matron of honor at TG's and my wedding in June of 1979, and I remember her feeling unwell in the summer heat and all of the excitement, and being far from home (they lived in Europe at the time, and her husband did not accompany her on the trip).
Audrey and Mike visit with Rebecca and Lydia
All of this while being in the first trimester with her third child while the two older girls were still pretty small. The three sisters adhered to the stairstep trope; the first of their two brothers would come along in early 1982.
Rebecca was born in December of 1979, right about the time that TG and I learned we were expecting our Stephanie.
I was present in Quebec, Canada when, in November of 2004, Rebecca and Rex were married in a lovely church wedding.
She had met Rex while serving as a missionary for a while in her early twenties; I cannot remember the country.
Rhett cherishing his Peppa Pig toys
Rex's heritage is Chinese-Filipino (he was born in Manila, Philippines), but I'm pretty sure they met neither in China nor the Philippines.
But I could be wrong. I know that they did live in China for several years, and that the youngest of their four children -- Jonathan, who is twelve years of age -- was born there.
Rex is a doctor, and for the past ten years or so he has served as the medical director of two assisted living facilities in South Bend, Indiana.
Several months ago my sister told me that Rex had been interviewed by LMC Extended Care for the position of Medical Director.
Chad last saw Rex at my mother's funeral in 2020
If I were to get into my car and head for LMC Extended Care, it would take me about twelve minutes to get there.
We live two miles from the dam -- officially the Dreher (say "drear") Shoals Dam but locally and colloquially referred to by the interchangeable names Lake Murray Dam, Saluda Dam, and Saluda River Dam -- and the extended care facility is just across the dam and down a ways, one turn and there you are.
We were thrilled at this news and I didn't dare wish for Rebecca and her family to move to our area, thinking it would never happen and surely I'd be disappointed.
But the offer of employment was extended to Rex during the winter, and he accepted, and back in early March, Rebecca came to town with her two boys in order to look at a school they may attend, and TG and I showed them around and we all had a late breakfast together.
I made the apple pie baked beans
The boys are being educated partially at home by their mother and partially (two days a week) at a cooperative private school.
A move to South Carolina was particularly attractive to Rebecca and family since her parents, my sister and brother-in-law, live in Greenville, a ninety-minute drive from Columbia.
Attractive to us too. TG and Rebecca have had a special relationship throughout her life. He's already loaning her his Daniel Silva spy thriller collection, one book at a time.
Rebecca told me a few months ago that their moving date was set for June eleventh, so all spring, we had that to look forward to.
I love all of my nieces and nephews and of course my children love their cousins, so everyone was excited at the prospect of their arrival.
My new flamingo and beach ball S&P shakers, for summer
The family will be living in an Airbnb until they decide on a house to buy.
As the day of the move approached, I called Rebecca and asked how things were going. Turned out they were right on schedule.
On June tenth I contacted my niece via text to say that I hoped she'd let us help in whatever way they might need during moving week, and also to invite them to dinner on Thursday the thirteenth.
In due time Rebecca responded that they would love to come to dinner on the thirteenth, and I began making preparations.
Mike chatting with Emmie
A simple but hearty summertime meal was called for, and you know me -- hamburgers and hotdogs done on the grill was the first thing that sprang to mind.
Everyone likes that, and TG does the grilling for me, and I can concentrate on the sides.
Often we have grilled chicken with the burgers and dogs, but because the very next day was Dagny's birthday and we'd have a grilled course for that too, I hewed to the burger-and-dog path and deemed that sufficient.
For sides I made my now-semi-famous Apple Pie Baked Beans -- what? You have not tried those yet? Well I declare, ahoy and avast, chop chop, shake a leg because these are excellent.
Lydia's hair has not seen scissors in many a year
One note regarding the recipe for Apple Pie Baked Beans: when you open the can of apple pie filling, pour it into a bowl and fish out the apple slices and cut them in halves or thirds before adding them to the beans.
Discard the too-sweet goo with which they share that can space. The beans don't need it.
Along with that side, I went with my boring old semi-homemade macaroni and cheese, because the kids love it and it's easy.
All I do is make two boxes of the Kraft Mac and Cheese Deluxe Original Cheddar, prepare it according to package directions, and then add a good quantity of hand-shredded sharp cheddar, and a generous splash of buttermilk.
TG's tomatoes are exceptional this year
You can use plain milk. I always have buttermilk on hand.
Don't skimp on the extra cheese. You hear me? Do not skimp.
Mix it all up, pour it into your baking dish, add more hand-shredded cheese to the top, and bake at three-fifty for about fifteen minutes.
Bake it any longer and it will dry out. It's just heating through and becoming bubbly. Of course you want to take that out of the oven just as everyone is called to the food-serving area for the blessing and instructed to tuck in.
Rebecca was so relieved that moving day was behind her
I whipped up some coleslaw, also semi-homemade because the tri-color slaw comes in a bag, but I make the dressing with a combination of vinegar (usually apple cider), sugar, and mayonnaise.
TG has been growing beautiful tomatoes, so I sliced up some of those and had diced onion and bread and butter pickles for dressing the burgers and dogs.
I think we had deviled eggs too. In fact, I know we did. They're a staple at our festive meals. So easy to make.
Also chips -- wavy and barbecue. Plus the big galvanized bucket filled with soft drinks and water, covered with loads of lovely ice.
Rebecca made a pretty card to commemorate Lydia's high school graduation
I had begun preparations in earnest at about noon that day. Cooking came first, and I spent a few hours in the kitchen.
Cleaning was next -- namely my floors, since the house is usually orderly and only needs dusting and vacuuming, and a few sweeps of the Swiffer.
That accomplished, I got ready and before I knew it, Mike and Audrey and Dagny had arrived. I'd asked them to come a tad bit early and get the beverage bucket set up.
Rex and Rebecca and their brood pulled up in front of the house at about the same time as Cherica with Rhett and Baby Elliot.
Dagny was more than delighted to hang with her relatives
Rebecca had asked if they could bring their dog Boaz, a fifty-pound animal whose breed I cannot remember, and I had said of course, but he'd have to stay outside.
They decided not to bring him and I was disappointed, because I've seen pictures and Boaz is super cute, but there will be time for those introductions.
Rex and Rebecca's children consist of Lydia, who is eighteen and just graduated from high school; Emilia -- she goes by Emmie -- who turned seventeen a few weeks ago; JP, who will be sixteen in August; and the aforementioned Jonathan, who is twelve.
They are a truly lovely family and I am looking forward to spending more time with them. In fact, yesterday, Rebecca brought the children over to swim! I had told them they were welcome any time.
Erica was reppin' our beloved Chicago Cubs
It's pretty hot here and their temporary quarters are small-ish, and house hunting is exhausting, and they needed a break.
TG put some planks down for them to walk (hahahaha yes I did say that) so that they could navigate the in-progress deck, and they had a ball splashing around.
The pool water is eighty-five degrees, they reported.
But back to the night of our cookout, last Thursday. Everyone assembled and TG brought in the burgers and dogs, and there were fifteen of us but I only had fourteen chairs, but somehow we made do.
Mike may have been quizzing Emmie about her Chinese roots
We loaded our plates and enjoyed our meal, talking and laughing and getting to know one another better.
For our sweet course, I had gone the easy route and picked up a huge box of Nestlé Classics frozen dessert novelties at Costco. There were drumsticks, ice cream sandwiches, and chocolate-covered ice cream bars.
And I am here to tell you that on that score, I stepped up to the plate and hit a grand-slam home run. You should have seen the children's eyes light up and the adults were chuffed too, when I brought that massive electric-blue box in from the garage freezer, and opened it up so everyone could make their choice.
Those ice creams were scrumptious. I think I'll be keeping a supply of those on hand. Easy and delicious, and best of all, handy portion control. Unless you eat two, in which case you're on your own.
I have a dandy veggie chopper that did those onions
Dagny loved the whole experience; she is a singleton who never met a stranger, so having four kids to hang out with, in addition to Rhett and Elliot, was like a vacation for her.
By the way, in case you need a wee genealogy refresher: Rebecca's children are my great-nieces and great-nephews.
I'm sure you know that but you may not know this: Since Rebecca is my children's first cousin, her children are my children's first cousins once removed.
As in, they share a set of grandparents (my mother and Henry).
Chips: the easiest side to make, haha
Rebecca's children and my grandchildren -- Dagny, Rhett, and so forth -- are second cousins. They share a set of great-grandparents (again, my mother and Henry).
(Often people become confused and believe that their cousins' children are their second cousins, but that is not the case.)
At any rate, we are family and Dagny and Rhett and even Elliot enjoyed getting to know their second cousins.
After supper and that splendid dessert, as the fireflies started winking outside, the kids got up a game of Frisbee.
Dagny hanging out with her second cousin, Emmie
We visited for a while longer before everyone headed for home, having had a truly delightful time.
Our next party was less than twenty-four hours away, so TG and I headed inside to get some rest and look forward to that.
You know I will tell you all about it in a few days.
And that is all for now.
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Happy Wednesday
Reader Comments (14)
Jenny, I loved reading about this lovely get together you and your husband provided for your sweet niece and her family.... welcoming them to the area in such a wonderful way. It's what family does...I know. But you do it so graciously.
Sending you hugs. Looking forward to hearing about the next party.🥰
You got fantastic candid shots! You sure know how to throw a party and feed many people! You are a chef/party planner kind of Pirate!! Love Dagny's dress! So what brand were these ice cream bars and sandwiches? I do need to make this macaroni & cheese!
You had told me that they might be moving near you but I didn't know it had happened. How nice to be so close and I bet Kay is thrilled to have them near to you too.
Looks like everyone had fun. I can see the joy on Dagny's face!. I bet they'll be back often to visit the pool.
I need to try the beans - can you believe I haven't made them yet?
My goodness, you do seems to like socializing, and you don't mind the work that goes into it.
@Dianna ... Thank you my friend but I did no less than anyone would do when a beloved relative moves to town! We're going to enjoy having them nearby. xoxo
@Ginny ... The ice cream was the Nestlé Classic assortment box from Costco! FORTY ice creams in that box, hahaha! But one is enough ... at a time. And yes you need to make that mac and cheese! To be so easy, it is very good. I do love to plan a party! I just enjoy having a project. I felt that my candid shots were lacking and I should have gotten a family shot of the newcomers, but I forgot in all the excitement! xoxo
@Mari ... NO I cannot believe you haven't made them yet! Your crowd would like them I think. Yes Dagny was overjoyed to have children anywhere near her own age to talk to and hang out with! She and Lydia and Emmie hit it right off. And yes Kay is certainly thrilled! xoxo
@AC ... There are not very many things I enjoy more than cooking for a crowd, and having company! I love it. xoxo
I absolutely love connecting with my siblings' next generations. My niece/goddaugher now has a very young daughter and she just absolutely thrills me. They both hold such a special place in my heart.
Speaking of family get-togethers, in early August there will be a reunion of all of my paternal great-grandparents' descendants. We had these get-togethers several times when I was young so I once knew all of my father's many cousins (he had 7 aunts and uncles just on his father's side) and their children. I have never met the next generations. It should be quite the gathering. It is already bringing back memories and I have been telling stories to my daughter who seems to always ask, "Mom, who ARE these people?" She is about to find out and I am really looking forward to it.
@Maryellen ... That reunion will be just everything! It's mind-boggling to think of all the stories than can be told in just ONE family. And there will be folks who resemble you, who you have never met! You. need to start a blog, hahahaha! If only to show pictures and tell about that. And I love being an aunt and have always been close to my nieces and nephews -- or as close as time and distance permitted. I had truly wonderful aunts and uncles -- not that many, since my father was an only child, but my mother's siblings were all so precious to me. Only one is left and he is a young 76, and since he was just a little boy when I was born, we have always been close. You and your daughter will make so many great memories in August. I hope you'll email me with some photos and tell me all about it. xoxo
This is a lovely post. I'm so happy to hear you have even more family close by now. What a true blessing. Love all of the photos and your food sounds delicious. I'll have to try the bean recipe for TBG. Believe it or not, I don't care for baked beans. I know, shameful. I hope you're staying as cool as you can with this heat and humidity. My curly hair is out of control. :)
@Lori ... Thank you my friend! Yes it is a blessing to have even more family nearby. I look forward to spending more time with my niece! Now, be warned that the Apple Pie Baked Beans recipe is a big one. Be prepared to freeze a lot of it, but won't that be nice? On hand when TBG wants some. I hope he likes them. Whhaaaaaat you don't like baked beans? Mercy I will have your portion too, hahaha! I am keeping cool because I don't go outside during the day more than twice a week, haha! And as soon is the deck is completed (whennnnn???), I can get out to my pool and jump in. Hallelujah xoxo
Hi Jenny,
I always enjoy your gatherings... the food, the friendships and family. I just LOVE it all.
And now for you to have more of your family close ... this is very special indeed.
Carla
@Carla ... the more the merrier, that's for sure! I love cooking for a crowd. xoxo
Parties with friends and family are what memories are made of. You make and share wonderful memories, Jenny!
How wonderful that your niece and family have moved into your area! What were the chances? All of your photos are amazing but my favorite is the precious photo of "Rhett cherishing his Peppa Pig toys". Your husband's tomatoes look beautiful but I'm surprised you have tomatoes already. They are no where near ripe in this area yet! Well it sounds like everyone had a good time with your wonderful meal and family time together. Good luck getting ready all over again tomorrow! Looking forward to hearing about tomorrows party.
@Mike ... thank you my friend! We do have some great memories together and I like it that everyone seems to like coming to my house! xoxo
@Judee ... The chances were nearly nil as far as I'm concerned, of Rebecca ever living near me! Hahaha it still amazes me because we all love her dearly and her family are equally precious. Yes our Rhett with his toys, isn't that cute? He is at that adorable age of nearly three! TG and I have thoroughly enjoyed those tomatoes! His cherry tomatoes are just like candy. xoxo